Sunday, January 7th, 2001
There is a general tendency for complacency when things are going well. For some reason you relax and, before long, you seem to
slip back into old habits. When your life is a struggle, it engenders a deeper energy inside you to overcome the challenge and get yourself back on your feet. But as soon as you achieve this you lose your edge, your
energy, your will to keep moving forward, and before long you are right back where you started...
Why do you do that?
Last year, on August 6, I wrote about this struggle inside me between that part of me that
always wanted to do more, be more, go further, and the part of me that wanted to stop where I was and enjoy the feeling of having arrived. I have thought more about this over the past few months as the
different parts of my life unfolded up to this point.
Jacqui once commented to me that I would never be happy. This month, on the Home Page of this site I have included a quote from my Grand Uncle, Malcolm Muggeridge, about the pursuit of happiness. What is it about us that drives us to seek a state in our lives where we can stop and say - "I am Happy". The more I consider this, and how it applies to me, I see the utter futility in its execution. Under The Philosopher's Pen, I have a detailed discussion on why I think this is the case.
I have found the secret magic. I know that sounds like utter rubbish... in fact, if I were you I would probably be moving the mouse back over the location field and
going somewhere else. It is astounding a realisation. It is so simple in its construct, and yet so powerful in its application. The pursuit of happiness is not what we should be embarking on.
Happiness should be the attitude with which we get up and go out every day, in the pursuit of what it is we wish to create in our lives. It is in this pursuit that we will find satisfaction. And we should
never seek to be content. It is that state of contentment that slows us down, and blocks the creative energy...
Be discontent. Find the next thing that you wish to achieve, and then go get it. When you look around you at your life, find the
things that make you "unhappy" and think about them carefully. Separate these things from your emotional happiness. Be happy anyway! Because you have the power and tools to affect whatever
change is necessary to bring these things to a new level - one that you are "happy" with! So - be happy that you are making the changes you want, give them the energy they require, and enjoy them when they
come to fruition. But don't be content! Keep that energy flowing, find the next thing and go after it. The more you do this, the greater it makes you feel. This cycle is the basis for our
enthusiasm, and it is enthusiasm that is the key to life.